When it comes to figuring out love,Korea there might not be an official playbook, but there is The Bachelorfranchise.

Over the years of being true Bachelorstans, the series’ bachelors and bachelorettes have taught us countless important lessons about love, relationships and the relentless pursuit of roses. Here are 13 keys to a happy relationship we've picked up from ourBachelor heroes .

1. You have to be in it for the right reasons

2. Don't be afraid to trust your instincts

3. On a first date, remember to drink in moderation

4. It's not real love if there are no roses involved

5. Stealing is wrong—unless it's for a sec

6. When it comes to dates, keep it simple

7. You can't be afraid to put yourself out there

8. Don't date multiple people at once, unless you're ready for it

9. It's okay to be vulnerable

10. Trying new things together can strengthen a relationship

11. Get to your fantasy suite at your own pace

12. Be yourself

13. If you break up, there's always next season—or Bachelor in Paradise